Life is challenging. We work hard, schedule out every minute of our 1,440 minute days, and always try to be better. No one is perfect and we can only do the best that we can do. It’s tough to hear my friends, and even myself, say that they feel it isn’t enough and they aren’t where they want to be yet or they don’t even know where they are supposed to be yet but they feel like they should already be there. These days, the pressure of needing to be “successful” and thinking about your future is constant and overbearing. I remember walking into the guidance office on my first day of high school and being asked where I was going to school and what I was studying. Uhh… NO CLUE. I don’t think I had ever even heard of Purdue at that point and I was stuck between about 50 careers I wanted to pursue. Ever seen a doctor/artist/scientist/vet/psychologist/author? Yeah, me neither (bet I could’ve crushed it though).
I don’t even know what I’m having for breakfast tomorrow morning, let alone where I see myself in 5 years. Some things in life can’t be planned. And we can’t keep putting this pressure on ourselves of needing to be somewhere 10 minutes ago. The people that are asking us to answer these questions and live this way are just trying to be helpful in guiding you through your journey, but remember that you are driving your own destiny. And that their definition of success will be completely different than yours. I love finding out how people define success, some want money and fame, some want kids and a home, a dream job, a loving spouse, enough makeup to sink a ship, others, just a dog would be totally great. So don’t let others decide your definition for you, it is your life, your success, and your happiness.
There is a constant bombardment of advice on the internet, how to start saving money, the new diet that will change your life, what you should name your kids if you REALLY want them to succeed (because obviously you want to see your child fail miserably if you give them a name like Adam), but we all need to remember that NO ONE HAS THEIR LIFE TOGETHER. NO ONE HAS THE ANSWERS. Even me, as I sit here, giving you this advice to not always listen to other people’s advice, can’t tell you how to live your life. That’s the beauty of being human- there is no magic solution to anything or end-all-be-all guide on how to navigate life. The only thing I ask is that we all respect everyone’s opinion on how they live THEIR life, and then take it with a grain of salt. Maybe they have some ideas that you really like and maybe you think they are bonkers and have no idea what they are even talking about. If you take things with a grain of salt, you will find pieces here and there of all the blogs and opinions you read and hear that resonate with you and create your own beautiful way to live life. Just be happy with what you do.
Let’s practice! Finish reading this, and then mentally decide if you like what I say: if so, keep thinking about it! If not, just forget everything you just read and continue on! Simple.
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