Adulting: Why Did I Ever Want to Grow Up?
Uh-oh I think I broke him….
Remember those TV episodes where the young characters were coupled off and made responsible for delicate eggs? After one week the egg was usually filthy and taped together.
I haven’t dropped my baby (thank God!) and he’s not taped together. But he has spewed milk out of his nose, gagged in his sleep and a few other things that almost gave me a stroke. At this point, Google has officially become his third parent. As much as instinctual parenthood has kicked in, I still feel like I have no idea what I’m doing.
I’ve never had to take care of anything in my entire life as delicate as a baby and life just threw me in there. I mean seriously, shouldn’t there be a test at the hospital to ensure that you can handle parenthood?
As if parenting isn’t a struggle enough, adulting takes it up another notch.
Shouldn’t school teach us about real life? It’s only fair since we spend the first part of our life being told exactly what to do, when, how and where. Then, bam! You’re an adult and you’re calling your parents or asking Google every single thing. I get it, teaching us how to live would rob us of all the “fun” in figuring it out. Something like family planning or living with roommates can’t really be taught. We all have problems and work them out based on our personal needs and expectations. But there are certain things that make sense across the board. For instance, teaching us how to invest for the future or how to correctly file taxes or just how to fill out a W-4. This seems like practical teaching to me. The one economics class I took in high school is a blur now that real life is finally happening and yet another tax season is passing and I’m still clueless. And I’m not the only one. Why do you think TurboTax was created? There’s a whole lot of us that are scratching our heads when it comes to financial planning and management. Not to say we won’t or can’t figure it out. But being taught would save us the headache and probably save us money.
At 24, I’ve done pretty well with budgeting and keeping my credit score
above average, but it was not without plenty of mistakes and broke days. I consider myself to be a lucky one, because I started working while in college and paying small bills like my car note and phone bill (and that was stressful!). But I will say, messing up early is better. Then there are the people that completely took care of themselves since forever and the ones that have been afforded, by their parents, a carefree life. In either scenario, at some point it gets real and budgeting, credit reporting, negotiating, etc. have to be figured out.
If school actually gave us real life tools wouldn’t it make us more efficient and smarter?
I guess school assumes your parents will teach you financial responsibility. But unfortunately most of our parents are trying to stay afloat themselves and can’t fully give us a plan for financial success. Even still, we all do what we want to do anyway. I remember going into college, my parents constantly warned me to stay away from credit cards, but did I? No, of course not. I had a general understanding of credit, you borrow and pay back. If you don’t, debt is created. 1 maxed card later and I learn that 1 infraction could soil your entire credit history based on other factors, like how long you’ve had credit or how many inquires you’ve made. Information that would’ve been helpful BEFORE.
And if managing finances doesn’t make you want to crawl back into your mother’s womb, maybe it’s the balancing your passion with real life demands part of adulting.
Whatever it is, I just can’t understand now why I ever wanted to be an adult so bad?!
It has its great moments, like sipping wine and going any where I want, outside of that I can’t think of much else.
Okay I’m done ranting,
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